My WHY…..

l have to start out by giving a warning: I am NOT a writer. Putting my thoughts into written words has never been one of my strengths, mostly because my thoughts look like the beginning of a game of 52 card pickup inside of my head.

So if I am not a writer, why in the world am I starting a blog??

The short answer : I am tired of feeling like I should be better at mothering, friendship, marriage, house keeping, and all of the other things that I am responsible for.

The long answer: Since I have joined social media (specifically Facebook) a million years ago, I have always felt like I (my looks, my finances, my job, my home, my marriage) wasn’t enough. I genuinely thought that what people posted on social media was the truth. I assumed that since I was being authentic, so was everyone else.

It has taken me quite some time (9ish years) to realize that social media and reality are two very different versions of someone’s life.

I started to play around with this idea on my Facebook and Instagram by posting “Social Media vs. Reality” content. I showed the pretty side of things, clean, organized, and VERY much cropped as well as the truth, the secrets that lie just outside of the frame. I was encouraged by the responses and likes I got on these posts. Apparently I was not the only one who felt like everything on social media was always just too shiny.

I began talking to friends about how we, as women (mothers especially) always feel this underlying pressure to meet these invisible expectations that stem from the lives of those around us. Every single girl friend I spoke to expressed the same sentiment. They too feel pressured to meet these made up standards that are plastered all over social media, and often times feel like they come up short in one area or another.

Knowing how hard all of my friends work at their jobs, or staying at home, being great mothers, involved friends, and all of the other titles they hold, I felt like it was so important to validate the feelings we have as women, give a space to share successes and failures, and ultimately create a vibe based on honesty, doing our best, and being okay with screw ups.