Friendship Wardrobe
So I have this friend right? Lets call her Prism; and, well, she comes with what some would call emotional baggage. I know that she suffers from anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and lastly adult ADD (diagnosed by yours truly). I really just gave her my diagnosis because we are basically the same person…. except Prism sometimes cries and stuff and I am pretty sure I don’t have any tears left, so I’m not able to shed any.
Anyway, this friend of mine, Prism, obviously has other friends, because if I am your only friend you REALLY need to make better choices. Just sayin. So Prism’s friend, who we will call Aubergine(iykyk), has been around for quite some time, like decades, decides to tell Prism that they need a break from their friendship because she doesn’t want to tiptoe through Prism’s bullshit anymore. So I talk to Prism, she’s upset, rightfully so, and I couldn’t offer much support because I was just confused. I thought the definition of being a good friend is running through the bullshit together? I assured her that I would be there, not only to run through it, but I had a really nice pair of waders and was ready to get knee deep in any bullshit she had.
This got me thinking, if I need hypothetical waders in friendships, what other essentials should I have on hand? So here are a few items that would work in anyone’s friendship wardrobe.
Waders:
-Of course, to get through the bullshit. They are a great mix of boots and pants that offer a supreme level of protection against all types of bullshit. You can safely make your way through any of your friends' bullshit, while holding their hand, carrying their purse, helping with their kids, and just being genuinely supportive, and when you’re done, boom, slide those waders off, and you are bullshit free.Sunglasses (but only if they have mirrored lenses):
-Sometimes your friends are going to need to see what you see when you look at them. Be a reminder to them of how strong they are, loved, cherished, admired, important, funny, caring, and anything else they may have a hard time recognizing within themselves. Let them know why you’re there…. would you really be hanging out with a shitty person on purpose? I mean I hope not.Tote:
-You must make sure that the handles on this bag are reinforced, its contents may get heavy. There will be times you may have to carry some of your friends' burdens, their worry, their stress, their sadness. But guess what else they may need help carrying, their joy, their family, their laughter, their accomplishments. Sometimes you will fill your bag up to lighten the load that they carry; other times you will fill your bag up out of an abundance of all the good things!Pants (specifically the Carhartt Utility Work Pants)
-Relationships are hard, they require work, sometimes a lot of work. You have to be strong, resilient, and want to put in the effort. Sometimes the work will require you to be brutally honest or show unconditional love. But the work will always be fruitful.
